Tuesday, October 30, 2012

      ................... DON'T GIVE A FOR SURE THING FOR A MAYBE THING..............

In life we all want to be happy and we tend to look for and focus on those who makes us happy at that time never really looking at the bigger picture. We focus on the ones who tell us what we want to hear when we want to hear it, never really questioning their real intentions. We will run at the first sign of trouble not taking the time to sit down and try to figure out the problem or problems all because we have someone else in our ear feeding us everything we think we need at that moment and it all sounds so good to us. We fail to remember or recognize that no one is perfect and irregardless of who we choose to be with there will always be problems, no they may not be the same problems you encountered in your last relationship but there will be problems and they may even be greater then the last problems you had.

There is never a such thing as a perfect relationship and if you think it is then you will forever be alone in life searching for perfection that does not exist. Just because someone has came along to tell you what you want to hear for that moment don't mean they are going to be around forever. The same way you had intentions on being with them they have their own intentions on trying to be there for you. I'm not saying it may not work because it could. I'm just saying why would you give up a for sure love for a maybe love. Maybe they will love you maybe they won't, maybe they'll be around forever, maybe they won't.
We have to learn how to step outside of our problems and see that person the way we saw them when we first met them. We have to learn how to not put our lives in someone elses hands and expect for them to supply us with everything that we feel we need but fail to tell them about. We need to realize there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and we can't continue to put unrealistic expectations on someone that we can't even live up to ourselves. We can't expect for someone to know what our problems are if we fail to express them to them. I mean after all they may be considered your other half but they have not been deemed as mind readers. If you fail to express your problems and concerns to the other person the only one that suffers is you because now you have to live with all that stuff built up on the inside of you and risk losing the one person who may love you unconditionally. Someone who has looked past all your faults and shortcomings and loved you regardless. Someone who you seemed to have turned your back on because you felt they weren't giving you what you needed when they didn't even know you needed it because you failed to express it to them.
If you have found someone already that looks past your faults, even though you may not admit it you do have them, and has loved you no matter what then you may need to realize that what you need and want is in that person and if you took the time out to get back to square one you would see all the good that was there to begin with. You would find the reason that you fell in love with that person in the first place. Who knows if loved right they just might change those things that you don't seem to like about them. Understand we can't change anyone but everyone will change for that special someone. You just have to be their reason to want to change, you have to be that love they can't live without. But know you can't be any of that if you're out there looking for someone to fill a void in your life. If you continue to search you will always be leaving a for sure thing for a maybe thing that may not always be around when you need them the most.
A relationship is only as good as you make it to be and if your're in it 100% then you need to be fair and share that with the other person. Don't treat someone in a way you don't want to be treated because it's bound to come back on you. You can't love with half a heart you have to love with your whole heart or it won't work at all.

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